'Ōlelo aʻo i nā makaʻāinana no ka hemo ʻana
He mea maʻamau i nā kāne i hoʻokaʻawale a hemo paha a nona ka home maʻamau e hoʻōki i ka noho pū ʻana. He mea maʻamau ka home male, ka hale i noho ai nā kāne ma mua o ko lāua kaʻawale ʻana, ʻo ia ka waiwai nui loa i loaʻa iā lāua.
No ka mea he nui ka poʻe e makemake ana i kahi moraki a i ʻole kālā mai kahi panakō a i ʻole nā hui kālā ʻē aʻe e hiki ai ke kūʻai aku i home, ʻoi aku paha inā e kaʻawale ana ʻoe mai kāu kāne a hemo paha a makemake ʻoe e kūʻai i home hou, pono ʻoe i kahi home hou. moraki.
Ma kēia ʻatikala, e kūkākūkā mākou i kāu mau koho no ka mālama ʻana i kāu moraki ke hemo ʻoe, kāu mau koho no ka mālama ʻana i ka home male ke hemo ʻoe, a pehea e puka ai i waho o kahi moraki hui.
No ka ʻike kikoʻī hou aku i ka Māhele Waiwai Ma hope o ka Divorce a me ka Hoʻopau ʻana o ka Hoʻohui Kūʻai a me nā Pono Waiwai o nā Māre a me nā ʻAha ʻĀina, hiki iā ʻoe ke nānā i "Nā mea e ʻike ai e pili ana i ka ʻāpana waiwai ma hope o ka hemo ʻana".
ʻO wai e noho ma ka home i ka wā kaʻawale
Ma muli o ka manaʻo o ka makuahine, ua manaʻo ʻia he ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā makuahine i ka mālama keiki. ʻAʻole hoʻokūpaʻa ke kānāwai o kēia manawa i ka manaʻo makuahine, akā i ka pono o ke keiki. Inā ʻike ka ʻaha i ka pono o ke keiki no ka mālama ʻana o nā mākua ʻelua, e māhele ka ʻaha i ka mālama. ʻAe kēia i nā mākua ʻelua e pāʻani i ka ulu ʻana o ke keiki.
Nui ka poʻe e hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo "mālama hui" a me "mālama hui" me he mea lā he mea like lākou. Eia naʻe, pili kēlā me kēia huaʻōlelo i kahi ʻano mālama ʻokoʻa. ʻO kahi o ke kumu o ka huikau no ka hoʻohana ʻana o kekahi mau mokuʻāina iā lākou. No laila, he mea nui iā ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo he ʻelua mau ʻano ʻokoʻa o ka ʻaelike mālama.
ʻO ka mālama pū ʻana, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, e pili ana i ka nui o ka pilina o ke keiki me kēlā me kēia makua. ʻO ke kumu, manaʻo ʻia ka mālama hui e hāʻawi i nā mākua i ka manawa e hoʻokaʻawale i ka manawa e noho kino ai ke keiki me lākou a kokoke i 50 pakeneka.
He aha kaʻu kuleana inā haʻalele au i kaʻu kāne?
I loko o kēia mau kamaʻilio ʻana, ʻaʻole e pau ka pīhoihoi iaʻu, ʻo ka mua, pehea ka ʻike ʻole o ka lehulehu e pili ana i kēia mau kumuhana, a ʻo ka lua, ʻehia ka nui o nā moʻolelo a me nā kuhi hewa. Ua lohe pinepine au i ka ʻōlelo ʻana: "Ma hope o ʻeono mahina o ka noho pū ʻana i kahi pilina maʻamau, ua kuleana lākou i ka hapalua o ka hale!".
ʻAʻole, ʻoiai ʻelua mau kānaka e noho ana i kahi pilina like me ka male no ka liʻiliʻi o ʻelua makahiki ma ka mokuʻāina a i ʻole kekahi o nā kumu ʻē aʻe no nā keiki i ka pilina a i ʻole nā haʻawina nui i hoʻokō ʻia, ʻaʻohe mea ʻokoʻa.
Hiki i kekahi lālā o ka male ke kuleana i ka hapalua o ka hale ma hope o ka mālama ʻana i kahi pilina de facto no ʻeono mahina? Ma keʻano laulā, he mea hikiʻole. No laila, i ka manawa hea e hiki ai i kekahi lālā o ka male ke kuleana i ka hapalua? ʻO ka loiloi kumu o ke kānāwai kūpono e hōʻike ana i ka noho ʻana o ka pilina de facto no ʻelua makahiki a i ʻole e hana ʻia kahi hewa koʻikoʻi i ka male e mālama ana i kahi keiki mai ka pilina e loaʻa i kahi kāne i ka hewa koʻikoʻi ma ka ʻike ʻole ʻana i kā lākou mau haʻawina nui. .
Hiki i ka wahine ke noho ma ka hale ma hope o ka hemo ʻana?
ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o kou inoa mai loko mai o ka moraki ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana o ka hemo ʻana e pono ai i kahi hoʻolālā e hōʻoia i ka hana wikiwiki a pololei. Aia nā ʻano like ʻole e wehe ai i kou inoa mai ka moraki, akā hilinaʻi lākou a pau i ka hāʻawi ʻana i nā waiwai i loko o ke kauoha hemo a me nā kūlana kikoʻī. ʻO ka noho ʻana i kahi hoa ʻaiʻē ma kahi moraki hiki ke pilikia ma nā pae he nui, e paʻakikī ai ka mālama ʻana i nā uku a me ka hoʻokumu ʻana i kumu o ka hakakā makua me ka mālama pū ʻana.
Ke māhele ʻia ka home male i ka hemo ʻana, ʻaʻole kakaikahi ka noho ʻana o nā hoa kāne mua i mau mea nona ka inoa maʻamau a i ʻole nā hoa hoʻolimalima. ʻO ka hapa nui o ka manawa, pono ka wahine i haʻalele i ka home male e haʻi, a haʻalele paha, nā kuleana āpau, ke kuleana a me ka hoihoi i ka waiwai i ka wahine nāna e mālama i ka home. Ke hoʻoili ʻia ka ʻona, hiki ke wehe ʻia ka inoa o ka wahine nona ka inoa mai ka ʻaiʻē moraki. Eia naʻe, aia kekahi mea hou aʻe, e like me ka wehewehe ʻana ma lalo nei.
Me ka hemo ʻana e hiki mai ana ka hana o ka hoʻomaʻemaʻe ʻana i kou inoa mai nā aie i hoʻopaʻa ʻia i nā waiwai ʻaʻole ʻoe e loaʻa hou, e hoʻomaka ana me ka hōʻaiʻē kaʻa. Ke hōʻaiʻē like nā hoa kāne e kūʻai i kaʻa hou a i hoʻohana ʻia paha, e hele ka kaʻa (inā ʻaʻole kūʻai ʻia) i kekahi a i ʻole kekahi. ʻO ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēia māhele waiwai i kauoha ʻia e ka ʻaha, ʻo ka mua, ka hoʻoili ʻana i ke kuleana i ke kaʻa a, ʻo ka lua, ka wehe ʻana i ke kuleana o ka mea nona ka ʻaiʻē.
