“I koʻu ʻike ʻia ʻana me ka maʻi kanesa, he 'hoʻohoka' ia iaʻu. He 46 makahiki koʻu, he ola olakino, ʻelua keiki liʻiliʻi, 8 a me 5 makahiki, he wahine maikaʻi aʻu i mare ai no ʻumikumamākolu makahiki… a he liʻiliʻi koʻu manawa e ola ai. Me kēia mau ʻōlelo, ua hōʻike ʻo John T., kahi ʻenekini ma West London ma ABC, ma o WhatsApp, ʻoiai ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke ʻōlelo. He makahiki aku nei i hala, ua haʻi aku lākou iā ia he ʻuʻuku ʻuʻuku i wehe ʻia mai kona ʻāʻī. Me ka chemotherapy a me ka radiotherapy lapaʻau, laha ke kanesa i nā wahi ʻē aʻe o ka waha a i ka ʻāʻī. "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke ʻōlelo, pono e hānai ʻia me ka ʻeha nui. Ua hāʻule au i loko o kahi puʻuwai, kahi i lawe mai ai koʻu psychologist a me kaʻu 'doula make' a i ʻole matron o ka make, ka mea e hoʻomau nei e hele pū me mākou i ke kaʻina hana. Mahalo ma luna o nā mea a pau iā Anna (kāna 'doula'), ʻaʻole wale ʻo ia i ʻae hope i koʻu kūlana, akā, ʻoiai he cliché paha ia, ua minoʻaka hou ʻo ia i loko o ka pilikia, a ʻōlelo koʻu ʻohana i koʻu maʻi me ka ʻeha. akā ma ke ʻano maoli". "ʻAʻole au makemake e make," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia, "a he wahaheʻe wau inā ʻōlelo wau ʻaʻole mākou e alo nei i ka ʻeha nui, akā pehea lā e hiki mai ai, ke manaʻo nei au i koʻu manaʻo, makemake wau e ola i ka Ua haʻalele au me kaʻu mau mea aloha i ka piha loa, nā mea aloha a make i loko o koʻu hale, me kaʻu wahine a me kaʻu mau keiki". ʻO Anna, kahi kahu hānai ma ka ʻoihana, ua noho pū ʻo ia me John a me kona ʻohana no kahi liʻiliʻi ma mua o ʻekolu mahina i kēia manawa, i ka mea āna i kapa ai "he ala hele e like me ka lāʻau lapaʻau", kahi e lilo ai kāna misionari i "kahi kiko. ʻO ke ʻano o ke aloha, ke aloha, ka ʻike i nā pae o ka make a me ke kanikau, i maluhia ka hopena o ke ola, mahalo, hanohano, no ka poʻe haʻalele a no ka poʻe e noho ana. Ma hope o nā makahiki he nui i ka hana ʻana i nā haukapila, ʻo ka poʻe hope loa i loko o nā keʻena mālama koʻikoʻi, a ʻike i nā mea maʻi he nui i make, i ka wā o ka maʻi maʻi ua hoʻoholo ʻo ia i hoʻololi i kona ola: nā maʻi, mālama iā lākou me ke aloha a me ka pili, akā i ka manawa like ʻole. e pili ana i ka naʻau. Akā ua manaʻo wau ua nalo wau i kekahi mea, manaʻo mau wau makemake wau e ʻapo iā lākou, e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou, e uē pū me lākou. ʻO ka mea ʻino loa i hele mai me ka Covid, i ka wā mua he mea ʻino loa ia, me ka nui o ka poʻe e make wale ana ma kahi moena o ka haukapila, me ka ʻole o kahi mea aloha e paʻa ana i ko lākou lima. He mea ma mua a ma hope iaʻu, ʻoiai i loko o kahi maʻi maʻi ʻaʻole pono e make wale ka poʻe. ʻO ia ka mahalo i kahi kamaʻāina, he loea i ka mālama ʻana, "Ua hālāwai au me kahi 'doula' mai ka hānau ʻana mai i haʻi mai iaʻu he 'doula' mai ka make. Ua wehe i kahi honua aʻu i ʻike ʻole ai. ʻO kēlā wahine, koʻu kumu aʻo, nona ke kaʻina make ponoʻī aʻu i ʻike ai i ka mea mua a i kōkua ai ʻo ia e hele pū me aʻu, ua hoʻololi i koʻu ola. " ʻO Magdalena, ka mea i make iā Covid i ka makahiki 2020, "ʻo ia i nā manawa koʻikoʻi i ke ola o ke kanaka, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻo ia ka kapu nui loa, a makemake wau e like me ia akā ʻo ka nānā wale ʻana i ka hopena o ke ola. ʻO ka hana no ka mea e paʻa ana ia i loko o ka ICU i hana nui iaʻu i kēia kaʻina ". ʻO kāna hana me John a me kona ʻohana ua hoʻopā i nā ʻano he nui, mai ka "pili kino, me ka pūliki ʻana, me ka ʻoluʻolu, ke kamaʻilio ākea a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo me lākou, a ʻo ka mea nui loa, me nā keiki, e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei, me ka ʻōlelo aloha a me ka kūpono i ka makahiki," i ke kōkua ʻana iā ia a me kāna wahine "e hana i nā hoʻoholo kūpono e pili ana i nā kumuhana paʻakikī e kūkākūkā ai, e like me ka hoʻoholo ʻana inā e puhi ʻia a kanu ʻia paha, e hoʻoponopono i nā pilikia a i ʻole nā pilikia, e kamaʻilio me ka ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha inā makemake ʻoe e kipa a ʻaʻole paha. a i ʻole, e kamaʻilio me nā hui lapaʻau e pili ana i kou makemake a me kou mau pono, e noho ma kou ʻaoʻao i nā kipa lapaʻau a e nānā i ka ʻike, i kekahi manawa paʻakikī ke lohe, e pili ana iā ʻoe i kahi kūlana o ka nāwaliwali a i ʻole 'shock', a ʻo wau hoʻi. e hana i kīʻaha kī a i ʻole meaʻai maikaʻi, a i ʻole e hana i nā hana, kahi mea liʻiliʻi o nā mea āpau. ʻOi aku ka paʻakikī o ka pilikia o nā keiki liʻiliʻi. "Ke noho nei mākou i kahi kaiāulu ʻaʻole kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka make a ʻo ia, i ka wā e ʻike ai, uku ʻia me ka ʻeha nui e pono ai. ʻO ka ʻeha o ka make, ʻoiaʻiʻo, he mea kaumaha, akā inā ʻike mākou i ka haʻi ʻōlelo ʻana i ko mākou mau manaʻo e pili ana iā ia, inā mai ka wā ʻōpiopio e ʻae ʻia mākou e komo i nā hana aloha, inā lākou e ʻike i ke kaʻina o ka degeneration kino. ʻO ko mākou ʻohana ʻelemakule a maʻi paha ke ʻike mākou i ka maloʻo o ka pua, e emi ana ka paʻakikī a me ka maʻalahi o ka lanakila ʻana. "Pono e hoʻomaikaʻi i ka kamaʻilio ma ka hopena o ke ola a paipai i ka de-medicalization o ka make kaʻina hana" Emma Clare 'doula' a me ka psychologist ma ka 'oihana Eia no hoi ka manao o Emma Clare, he psychologist e noho ana ma ke kulanakauhale o Ioka a. ʻO kāna hana mua ma hope o ka puka ʻana ʻo ke kākoʻo ʻana i ka poʻe maʻi maʻi i makemake e haʻalele i ka haukapila e make ma ka home. Ma hope mai ua hana ia ma nā wahi ʻē aʻe, e like me nā keiki me nā pono kūikawā a i ʻole me ka lāʻau lapaʻau no nā pākeke. "ʻOiai ua hauʻoli wau i kēia mau hana, ua ʻike wau makemake wau e hoʻi i ka hana ma ka mālama hope ʻana," wahi āna, kahi kuleana e kākoʻo ai i ka mea paʻa a me ko lākou mau ʻohana pili ʻaʻole e kau wale ana ma ke kaʻina o ka make. aka, ma na hana hope, I ka wa kanikau. No ia, he mea pono e "hoʻomaikaʻi i ka kamaʻilio ʻana ma ka hopena o ke ola", hoʻolaha i ka "demedicalization o ke kaʻina make" a hana i ka mea i kapa ʻia ʻo "nā kaiāulu aloha" kahi e "hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ke kūkākūkā ma waena o nā poʻe a me ko lākou ʻohana a me nā kauka lapaʻau e ʻae iā lākou e hōʻike i ko lākou mau makemake a me nā makemake, a e kākoʻo iā lākou i ka hoʻokō ʻana. "Ke manaʻoʻiʻo nei au ua kuleana nā kānaka a pau i ka 'make maikaʻi', ʻo kēlā me kēia mea no kēlā me kēia." "ʻO ka loaʻa ʻana o ka make iaʻu ua kōkua iaʻu e ola piha loa. Ua kōkua iaʻu e hana i ka maluhia me ka impermanence» Mariana García 'doula' ʻO Mariana García, 42, he psychologist hoʻomaʻamaʻa hoʻi, nāna e haʻi i kona hoʻomaka ʻana i kēia huakaʻi i ka wā maʻi o kona makuakāne. "Ua maopopo iaʻu ke hana nei mākou i nā mea hewa he nui ma ke ʻano he kanaka a ma ke ʻano he hui" no ka mea "ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻolohe i ke kanaka e make ana," wahi āna. “Ua lawe au i kekahi manawa e apo i koʻu kaumaha a aʻo i ka hana manawaleʻa i loko o nā hale maʻi a me ka poʻe ʻelemakule… Ua alakaʻi ʻia iaʻu e makemake e hōʻoia ʻia ma ke ʻano he 'doula', mua ma ʻAmelika Hui Pū ʻIa a laila ma ʻEnelani. Ua noʻonoʻo ka poʻe i ka wā e hana ai kekahi i kēia, he kaumaha nā mea a pau, akā ʻaʻole, ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka make iaʻu ua kōkua iaʻu e ola piha. Ua kōkua ʻo ia iaʻu e hana i ka maluhia me ka impermanence, "wahi a García, he mea hoʻomaʻamaʻa ma ka hui alakaʻi ʻo Living well, Dying well, a pale aku ʻo "ʻo ka apo ʻana i ka make ke apo nei i ke ola." E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hopena "Ua laki au i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā mākua ʻaʻole i dramatize i ka make," ʻo ka Pelekane Glynis German, ka mea i noho ma ka mokupuni no 30 mau makahiki a ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻo ia hoʻi he mea hoʻolauleʻa male, hāʻawi manawaleʻa ʻo ia i ka hale hospice. ʻO ka Halemai Joan March ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana o ka hui manawaleʻa ma ka mokupuni, DIME. ʻO kēia ka mea i manaʻo ai ʻo ia ka pono e hana akā i ka mālama hope ʻana o ke ola "a ʻo ka hana a kahi mea hoʻolauleʻa hoʻolewa, aʻu nō hoʻi e hana nei, ʻo ia koʻu holomua kūlohelohe", i ka manawa like i hoʻolauna ʻia ʻo ia i ka neʻe honua 'Death. ʻO Café, kekahi mau hālāwai āna i hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai i kēia manawa e kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka make ma kahi ʻano hoʻomaha a hilinaʻi "ʻoiai mākou e inu ai i ke kī a ʻai i ka keke". I ka wā o ka maʻi maʻi Covid-19 "a mahalo i ka pūnaewele o Death Cafés ma Sepania, ua lilo wau i hoʻokahi o nā lālā hoʻokumu o ka Hāʻawi ʻana i ke ola i ka make", i kaulana i kēia manawa ma ka pūnaewele.
