Ukwahlula ukubhala
Ebudeni bezi ncoko, ndihlala ndimangaliswe yindlela uluntu olungenalwazi ngayo malunga nale miba, okokuqala, kwaye zingaphi iintsomi kunye neengcamango eziphosakeleyo, okwesibini. Kaninzi ndivile ukuba kusithiwa: "Emva kweenyanga ezintandathu zokuhlala kunye nobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, banelungelo lesiqingatha sendlu!".
Hayi, okoko nje kukho abantu ababini abahlala kubudlelwane obufana nomtshato iminyaka emibini ubuncinci kurhulumente okanye enye yeenqobo zokugweba zabantwana kubudlelwane okanye igalelo elikhulu lihlangatyezwana nalo, akwenzi mahluko.
Ngaba ilungu lesi sibini linelungelo lesiqingatha sendlu emva kokuba ligcine ubudlelwane be-de facto iinyanga ezintandathu? Ngokubanzi, akunakwenzeka kakhulu. Ngoko xa ilungu elinye lesibini linelungelo lesiqingatha? Uphononongo olungeyonyani lomthetho ofanelekileyo luyenza icace into yokuba ubudlelwane be-de facto kufuneka bubekhona iminyaka emibini okanye intswela-bulungisa enkulu iya kwenziwa kwisibini esinyamekela umntwana kubudlelwane isibini siya kubandezeleka ngokungekho sikweni ngokungaqapheli igalelo laso elikhulu. .
Iingcebiso zomthetho zasimahla
Izibini ezingatshatanga ezihlala kunye (ukuhlalisana) zinamalungelo ahlukileyo kunesibini esitshatileyo okanye esisemthethweni. Ukuba umtshato uphela ngoqhawulo-mtshato, ngokuyintloko inkundla iya kuqwalasela iimfuno zomnye, kunokuba ibe yeyiphi inxalenye yendlu kabani. Ngokomzekelo, ngokuqhelekileyo inkosikazi enyamekela abantwana inikwa ikhaya lentsapho, ekubeni iintswelo zakhe ziya kugqalwa njengezingakumbi.
Noko ke, lo mgaqo awusebenzi kwizibini ezingatshatanga. Akukho "de facto union". Ngaphandle kokuba kukho isivumelwano sokuhlalisana okanye isivumelwano sokuthembana, izibini ezingatshatanga zinamalungelo ambalwa alungiselelwe imeko yawo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu ufudusela iqabane lakhe kwikhaya labo baze emva koko bahlukane, eso sibini sisenokungabi nalungelo kuloo propati, nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba eso sibini siphikisane ngelithi sibe negalelo kwimali yepropati, ngoko ke kufuneka ube nenxaxheba.
Le ndlu yayiyeye-50:50 ngesenzo xa uMnumzan Kernott waphuma ngowe-1993, eshiya uNksk. Jones ukuba ahlawule imali-mboleko. Nanjengoko bengazange babelane ngeendleko zepropathi ngoko, inkundla yathi oku kuthetha ukuba “asiyonjongo iqhelekileyo yamaqela ukuba ngabanikazi bepropati ngokudibeneyo”. Ngamafutshane, uMnu. Kernott wenze igalelo elingephi, endaweni yoko imali yakhe wayeyibhekise kwikhaya lakhe elitsha. Ngoko ke, iNkundla ePhakamileyo yagweba ngelithi injongo yakhe yokuba ngumnini wendlu yakhe ngokudibeneyo itshintshile, nto leyo ethetha ukuba wayenomdla onganeno kwipropati kune-50% eyayidweliswe kwitayitile. UNkosikazi Jones ufumene i-90% yobunini, eshiya uMnu Kernott ene-10% kuphela.
de facto isibini
E-UK kukho ngaphezu kwe-3,5 yezigidi zezibini ezihlala kunye kodwa zingatshatanga. Ziya zisanda izibini eziwugatyayo umtshato zikhetha ukuhlalisana. Kwaye kulula ukubona isizathu: umtshato unokubonakala ngathi uzibophelele kakhulu, ozele luxanduva kunye noxinzelelo.
Kodwa ngelixa ukuhlalisana kunika izibini inkululeko kunye bhetyebhetye, akubaniki umgangatho ofanayo wokhuseleko njengomtshato. Ukuba okona kubi kakhulu kufika kokubi kwaye wena neqabane lakho nahlukana, umthetho womtshato uthetha ukuba iimpahla, njengekhaya losapho, imali, kunye nezinto onazo, zahlulwe phakathi kwenu nobabini, ngokufanelekileyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
I-59%* yezibini ezingatshatanga zikholelwa ukuba kukho imithetho exhasa i-de facto unions. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba ixesha elide kangakanani uhleli neqabane lakho, nokuba iiveki ezi-2 okanye iminyaka engama-22, akukho mtshato oqhelekileyo e-UK naseWales.
La macandelo alandelayo athetha ngamalungelo onawo kwii-asethi eziphambili eninokuthi nabelane ngazo njengesibini, kunye nezinto eninokuzenza ukuze nizikhusele kangangoko ninako kwimeko embi kakhulu.
umthetho wokuhlalisana
Ukuba uhlala neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba wenzeni ngekhaya lakho xa nahlukana. Izinto onokukhetha kuzo zixhomekeke ekubeni awutshatanga, utshatile, okanye ukwiqabane lasekhaya, nokuba uyarenta okanye ungumnikazi wendlu yakho.
Ukuba sele uzame ukulungisa izinto kunye nowakwakho kwaye kunzima kuwe, unokucela uncedo ukuze ufikelele kwisivumelwano. Ingcali ebizwa ngokuba “ngumlamli” ingakunceda wena nowayesakuba liqabane lakho nifumane isisombululo ngaphandle kokuya enkundleni.
Ngokubanzi, ukuba uyalishiya ikhaya lakho, ibhunga alisayi kukunika uncedo lwezindlu kuba ‘ubungenandawo yokuhlala ngabom’. Oku akusebenzi ukuba kuye kwafuneka ulishiye ikhaya lakho ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuyiphelisa ingqesho yakho okanye uyifuduse indlu, ibhunga linokucinga ukuba lityala lakho ukuba awunayo indawo yokuhlala. Oku kubizwa ngokuba "ngamakhaya ngabom." Ukuba ibhunga licinga ukuba awunamakhaya ngabom, abanakukwazi ukukufumana indawo yokuhlala ixesha elide.
Ukuba utshatile okanye isibini se-de facto, nobabini ninelungelo "lokufumana indlu". Oku kuthetha ukuba ungahlala endlwini yakho, nokuba akuyena umniniyo okanye awudweliswanga kwisivumelwano sokuqeshisa ngaso. Kuya kufuneka ufuduke ngokusisigxina kuphela ukuba umtshato wakho okanye ubuqabane basekhaya buphela, okanye ukuba inkundla iyalele oko, umzekelo, njengenxalenye yoqhawulo-mtshato lwakho.
