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Iimodeli zeentsapho zitshintshile. Utata, umama kunye nabantwana ayisezoziduko kuphela ezenza uluntu. Namhlanje, iintsana nabantwana babelana ngeklasi kunye neentsapho ezinabazali abahlukeneyo, abazali abangenamaqabane okanye abesini esifanayo. Ngapha koko, eSpain, zonke izibini ezine zabasetyhini (28%) kunye neshumi ngalinye kwizibini ezithathu zamadoda (9%) zinabantwana, ngokutsho kophononongo 'Iintsapho zoHomoparental'.
Le yantlukwano yentsapho, eye yanegalelo elikhulu ekuncediseni ubuchule bokuzala, kukuba, ngaphandle kokunikezelwa kweegametes okanye ukufakwa kwe-artificial insemination, umzekelo, ezinye zeentsapho ezintsha azikwazanga ukwenziwa.
Enye yezi ndlela zokuzala ezincedisayo yindlela yeROPA, evumela ukuthatha inxaxheba kwabasetyhini ababini ekufezekiseni ukukhulelwa.
Omnye wabo ubonelela ngee-ovules kwaye omnye ufumana iimbumba kwaye uya kuqhuba ukukhulelwa kunye nokuzala.
Olu yayilukhetho lukaLaura noLaura, isibini esithandana nabasetyhini abaye baba ngoomama kuJulia wabo omncinci ekupheleni konyaka ophelileyo. Kule veki yemibhiyozo emva koSuku lwe-International Pride (Juni 28), sincokole nabo ngobunina, ukuba kuthetha ukuthini kubo malunga nendlela uluntu, kancinci kancinci, oluyilungisa ngayo le mifuziselo yosapho.
Ubusazi ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumama?
Ewe, sasihlala sicaca ukuba sifuna ukuqala usapho kunye, yayingumnqweno wethu omkhulu. Besisoloko siziva sinesidingo sokudlulisela uthando lwethu kunye neenqobo zethu ezisemgangathweni, kwaye yeyiphi indlela engcono yokwenza oko kunokudala ubomi obutsha.
Ubuyazi indlela yeROPA? Ngaba yayilukhetho lwakho lokuqala?
Ewe, besimazi. Safunda ngale ndlela okokuqala kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, kwaye saqala ukukhangela ulwazi, ukubhala ngokwethu kunye nokudibana neentsapho ezingakumbi zoomama ababini abaye bayenza. Sathandana noluvo lokuba sobabini singathatha inxaxheba ngokukhutheleyo kwinkqubo yokumitha.
Yayilukhetho lwethu lokuqala, kodwa hayi yodwa, kuba ngaphezu kwayo yonke into esetyenziswa ngokucacileyo kukuba sasifuna ukuba ngoomama kungakhathaliseki indlela. Bandakanya ukutyalwa kwethu okunokwenzeka kokwamkelwa.
Xa wawunxibelelana nosapho lwakho, izihlobo, ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumama… bakuxelela ntoni?
Bavuya kakhulu, kuba wonke umntu wayewazi umnqweno abaza kuhlala bewusebenzisa, sade sacinga ukuba abantwana bethu baya kuba njani. Ubhubhani wawuthetha ukuba kufuneka siwulibazise unyaka, kuba kuya kufuneka siqikelele ukuqala inkqubo ngo-2020, kodwa akuzange kube nguJanuwari ka-2021 apho saqala khona ukutyelela iikliniki ezininzi zokuzala eSeville.
Ugqibe njani ukuba ngubani onike amaqanda kwaye ngubani ofumene iimbumba?
Yayiyinto awayeyisebenzisa ngokucacileyo, okoko nje uvavanyo lwezonyango luqinisekisa isigqibo sethu. Sihlalutya umgangatho wee-ovules kunye ne-ovarian reserve. Umfazi wam, uLaura, naye wayevuyiswe kakhulu ngokukhulelwa kwaye wayesoloko esithi »wayefuna umntwana wethu aphathe izakhi zofuzo zam kwaye abukeke njengam, kwaye abe nee-curls zam!«.
Ndixelele kancinci malunga nayo yonke inkqubo: ukusuka kwezo mvavanyo zokuqala zonyango ukuya ekukhulelweni. Ufumene njani?
Amava ethu ebemnandi, nangona siye sanezihlandlo ezininzi zokungaqiniseki. Emva kokuba basitshintshile indlela ye-ROPA, kuya kucaca ukuba kuya kuba eGinemed, ekubeni saya kwindibano yokuqala yokubonisana noDkt Elena Traverso sasithanda unyango olusondeleyo kunye nokuthembela ukuba izigulane zethu zidlulisa.
Saqala iimvavanyo ukuhlalutya ukuba yeyiphi kwezi zibini zine-ovarian reserve, kwaye emva kokuba kuqinisekisiwe ukuba ndiza kuba ngumxhasi, ndaqala ngonyango lwe-hormone kunye ne-punctures. Konke kwakukhawuleza kakhulu kwaye kulula. Ekubeni saqala ngeemvavanyo, ngaphantsi kweenyanga ezi-2 ndandisele ndifumene i-ovule puncture, kwaye emva kweentsuku ezi-5, ukudluliselwa kwe-embryo esemgangathweni.
Siyikhumbula ngomdla omkhulu kunye nethemba lokuba iya kuhamba kakuhle, kodwa nangokungaqiniseki okukhulu kunye noloyiko, ekubeni oko kusenziwa i-puncture, sikubiza yonke imihla kwiintsuku ezintlanu ezizayo ukuze sikwazise ngokuvela kwee-ovules. oko kuya kuba ngcono Ukudluliselwa.
Kwelinye icala, ithemba le-beta, kuba yaziwa njengexesha elidlulayo ukusuka kudluliselo de ube uqinisekisa ukuba ukhulelwe okanye hayi, iintsuku ezili-10 ezingunaphakade. Kodwa ekugqibeleni lwafika olo suku, saza safumana ezona ndaba zinkulu sakha sazifumana ebomini bethu. Xa siyikhumbula, sisachukumiseka nanamhlanje.
Belinjani ixesha lonikezelo? Benikunye?
Usuku lonikezelo sarekhoda ngomdla omkhulu. UJulia, yiloo nto ebizwa ngokuba yintombi yethu, wayefuna ngokwenene ukuzalwa kwaye wayeneeveki ezi-4 ekuqaleni, ephula isikhwama ngoDisemba 7. Ukufika kwethu esibhedlele kwaye ukukrokrela kwethu kwaqinisekiswa, ukuba uJulia waphule ibhegi, basixelela ukuba uya kuzalwa kwiiyure ezingama-24 ubuninzi. Apho sajongana kwaye saqonda ukuba iya kuba yimini yokugqibela ebomini bethu ukuba sibe sobabini. Imini yayinzima kakhulu, sasihlala kunye ngamaxesha onke ngaphandle kokwahlukana nomzuzu. Ukongezelela, sasibanjwe phakathi kwe-omicron wave, ngoko akukho lungu losapho linokuba nathi.
Ukuzalwa kwakungokwemvelo kwaye ndikhumbula kakuhle. Indlela uJulia aphume ngayo kunye nendlela asijonga ngayo ukusuka kumzuzu wakhe wokuqala wobomi ngala mehlo asithandayo ngaphezu kweenyanga ezintandathu kamva.
Ngawaphi amava akho okanye bakuxelela ntoni xa besazi ukuba ningamaqabane amabini kunye noomama abanemikhwa efana nokuya kugqirha, okanye xa niye kuhlolwa kwi-gynecologist, esikolweni okanye kwisikolo sabantwana. .? Kuyinyani ukuba kuya kuxhaphaka ukubona abazali besini esifanayo, kodwa mhlawumbi kuyamangalisa okanye akunjalo (andazi, ndixelele ngokusekelwe kumava akho) uzifumana unomama ababini.
Ewe, kuyacaca ukuba uluntu luzazi ngakumbi ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeentsapho, akukho nto kumajelo eendaba, kwiichungechunge, kwiifilimu, kwiintengiso, kwinkqubo yemfundo ... Kodwa kusekho indlela ende ekufuneka ihanjwe, ngakumbi kumacandelo alondolozayo. Kwakhona kwi-bureaucracy, apho sifumene umqobo kunye neenkqubo ezithile, ezifana nokubhaliswa kwi-Civil Registry okanye ifom ye-nursery, engekalungiswanga kwimithetho emitsha kunye noyise nomama baqhubeka bevela.
Kukho nabantu abathi, xa besibona sobathathu sihamba kunye, abakholelwa ukuba sisibini kwaye yintombi yethu, sicinga ukuba singabahlobo ... Ngesinye isihlandlo, xa siye sahamba kunye, baya uye wasibuza ukuba ngubani phakathi kwaba babini umama kwaye sajongana kwaye sihlala siphendula ngaxeshanye: "singumama sobabini". Kukho abanye abantu abaye bacela uxolo kuthi kwaye abanye baye bamangaliswa.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, ukuba sijonga emva, kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo umthetho wokusemthethweni umtshato wamafanasini waveliswa eSpeyin, ngo-2005.
Kufuneka siqhubele phambili ukuze uthando olukhululekileyo lube lilungelo kwihlabathi jikelele, ngoko sifuna ukuthatha eli thuba sibulele iphephandaba le-ABC kunye neGinemed, ngokusinika le festile apho singakwazi ukwabelana ngebali lethu kwaye sibe ngumzekelo kwabaninzi. ezinye izibini.
Ubumama kuwe… buthetha ukuthini? Kunzima? Ingcono kunokuba ubulindele?
Nangona ivakala ngathi yinto nje eqhelekileyo, kuthi ibe yeyona nto ilungileyo ekhe yenzeka kuthi. Kuyinyani ukuba iyabutshintsha ubomi bakho, kodwa ibe ngcono. Kwaye kuyinyaniso ukuba kukho amaxesha apho unobusuku obubi, ukuba sele uhlala uxhalabile, kodwa xa uvuka kwaye ubone indlela intombi yakho ekujonga ngayo kwaye incume, ucinga ukuba akukho nto ehlabathini inokuhamba kakubi. Xa udala ubomi nomntu ofuna ukwabelana naye ubomi bakho bonke, esi sesona sigqibo sikhulu unokusenza. Ubomi bethu butshintshile, kodwa bungcono.
Nomncinci wakho unjani? Ngaba ungathetha naye malunga neentlobo ngeentlobo zeentsapho phaya?
Intombi yethu ilusana olonwabileyo, ihleka imini yonke. UJulia uneenyanga ezi-6 ezinesiqingatha ubudala, kwaye akakalifumani ithuba lokusibuza ukuba kutheni enomama ababini, kodwa sicacile malunga nendlela esiza kuyicacisa ngayo kuye kwaye siya kumenza aphulaphule zonke iintlobo iintsapho ezikhoyo nalapho aza kukhulela kuyo.
Ngaba ucinga ukuphinda?
Ewe, siyabathanda abantwana kwaye sinamaqanda amaninzi aqandisiweyo, ngoko kuyacaca kuthi ukuba siya kuphinda kwaye siya kunika uJulia omnye umntakwabo omncinci.
Le yindlela yeeMpahla: isisombululo sabasetyhini abafuna ukuba ngoomama
Sathetha noDkt. Pascual Sánchez, umseki kunye nomlawuli wezonyango weGinemed, ukufunda okungakumbi ngolu khetho.
Yintoni indlela yeROPA?
Indlela ye-ROPA (i-Reception of Ovules of the Couple) yindlela yokuzala kwizibini zabasetyhini abanqwenela ukuhla kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwabo bobabini: enye ibeka i-ovum, kunye nezinto zayo zofuzo, kwaye enye iqhuba ukukhulelwa, kunye nayo yonke into. Uthatho-nxaxheba kwi-epigenetics ukuba oku kuthetha ukuthini. Yindlela yokubandakanyeka okukhulu kwabasetyhini ababini kunye nenzala.
Ukwenza ungqamaniso lweemenses zombini, ukusebenza ngaxeshanye:
• Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lenza inkqubo yokuvuselela i-ovarian kumama de kube iifollicles zikhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba zikhutshwe. Le nkqubo ithatha kuphela malunga neentsuku ezili-11.
• Kwangaxeshanye, omnye umama ulungisa isibeleko sakhe ukuze i-endometrium ikhule ngokuchanekileyo. Ngale ndlela, sifezekisa ukuba ukuphuhliswa kwee-embryos, ezifunyenwe ngokuchumisa ii-ovules kunye nesidoda somnikeli, kulungelelaniswa nokuvuthwa kwe-endometrial. Ekugqibeleni, iimbumba zidluliselwa kwisibeleko sikamama, ngokubanzi kwinqanaba le-blastocyst, ukuze ukukhulelwa kufakwe apho.
Kweziphi iimeko ekhuthazwayo?
Olu buchule ngokuqhelekileyo lufanelekile kwizibini zabasetyhini abanomoya wokwabelana kunye nomnqweno wokufumana inzala. Iimeko ezingcono kakhulu zenzeke xa ibhinqa eliza kuthwala amaqanda lincinci kwaye linendawo yokugcina i-ovarian, kwaye xa imeko yesibeleko somfazi oza kumitha ilungile, kwaye usempilweni jikelele.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, oogqirha abaqhelekanga ukusebenza kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka silungelelanise nezinye iimeko ezingezizo ezona zilungileyo ngokwezonyango, kwaye apho, ngonyango olufanelekileyo, siphumelele nokukhulelwa.
Lithini izinga lakho lempumelelo?
Njengoko siye saphawula, kuxhomekeke kwiimeko zabasetyhini ababini, ukuzala sisimbuku seemeko ezininzi:
• Kwelinye icala, sinayo i-oocyte factor, evavanywa kuthathelwa ingqalelo ukwenzeka kokufakwa kwe-embryo, ubudala bomfazi, kunye nokugcinwa kunye nomgangatho wee-ovules, nto leyo ixhomekeke kwiimeko zehomoni. ibhinqa ekuphuhliseni i-follicle apho siza kukhupha khona ii-ovules kuya kwenzeka.
• Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho i-gestational factor, exhomekeke kwimeko ye-uterus kunye ne-endometrium yayo, kunye neemeko zempilo yowesifazane, ngokuchaphazela inkqubo yokufakelwa kwe-embryo kwisibeleko kunye nophuhliso lokukhulelwa. .
• Umba wesithathu ngamadlozi omnikeli: ilebhu yeziko lokuzala kufuneka iqinisekise ukuba ikumgangatho ophezulu.
Ngoko ke, sinokuthi iziphumo zixhomekeke, njengakwezinye iindlela zonyango ezincedisayo zokuzala, kwiimeko zesibini, kungekhona kubuchule obusetyenzisiweyo. Ukuba iimeko zilungile, ukukhulelwa kunokuqaliswa kwimizamo yokuqala ngaphezu kwe-80% yamatyala.
