Hiki ke hoʻopau ʻia ka inoa o ke kanaka mai kahi moraki me ka ʻole e hoʻihoʻi kālā iā Australia
ʻO ka hemo ʻana kekahi o nā hoʻololi koʻikoʻi o ke ola. Inā ʻo kēia ke kūlana āu e ʻike ai iā ʻoe iho, ʻaneʻane he nui kāu mau nīnau - ʻaʻole ka mea liʻiliʻi loa pehea ʻoe e mālama ai i kāu uku moraki inā hoʻōki koke kāu kāne i ka uku. No ka mea he nui nā mea e noʻonoʻo ai, he mea naʻauao ke hana pū me kahi loio hoʻohemo Georgia ʻike mai ka hoʻomaka.
Ma mua o ka hemo ʻana ma Georgia, pono ʻoe e hoʻokaʻawale i kāu kāne, akā ʻaʻole kēia manaʻo ua hoʻokaʻawale ʻia kāu kālā. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole makemake ka ʻoihana moraki i ka mea nāna e uku i kāu moraki - ʻoiai ke uku ʻia. Inā ʻo kāu wahine ka mea nāna e mālama i kou ʻohana a lawe ʻo ia i ka moraki, ʻo ka manaʻo o ka hoʻomau ʻana a i ʻole ka uku ʻana he mea weliweli. Eia naʻe, ʻo kou home ka mea nona ka male, e hoʻolilo ana i kāu moraki i ʻaiʻē hui, e waiho ana i kāu kāne male male e like me ke ʻano kālā e like me ʻoe.
ʻO nā mea a pau āu a me kāu kāne i kūʻai ai a/ai ʻole i loaʻa i ka wā o ko ʻolua male ʻana, he waiwai male ia, ʻoiai ʻo wai ke kūʻai aku, ʻo wai ka inoa ma ka palapala, a i ʻole ka mea nāna e uku. ʻO nā ʻokoʻa liʻiliʻi o kēia lula:
ʻO ka uku hoʻokaʻawale ʻo Centrelink
ʻAʻole mau ka male ʻana, a inā he haʻihaʻi ʻoe, ʻo ka mea mua, e hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō. Ma Australia, 30% o nā male mua a me 60% o nā male ʻelua e pau i ka hemo. ʻO kekahi o nā pilikia nui i ka wā e haʻalele ai nā kāne, ʻoi aku hoʻi no ka poʻe i loaʻa kahi hale, ʻo ia ka hoʻoholo ʻana i ka mea e haʻalele, ʻo wai e noho, a ʻo wai ka mea e uku i ka moraki.
ʻO ka manawa pinepine, hana ka mea e haʻalele ana i ka home me ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole ʻo ia ke kuleana o ka uku moraki. ʻOiaʻiʻo, i kēia manawa pono ʻoe e uku hoʻolimalima ma kahi ʻē aʻe, no ke aha ʻoe e uku ai no nā hale ʻelua? Akā naʻe, ʻaʻole pololei kēia manaʻo i nā manawa a pau, ʻoiai inā he mau keiki i pili. No laila pehea e helu ʻia ai?
I loko o kahi honua maikaʻi loa, he mea maikaʻi ia no ʻolua e noho pū i loko o ka hale a hiki i ka pau ʻana o ka hemo ʻana, hoʻopau ʻia ka moraki, a loaʻa paha kahi hoʻolālā no ka waiwai. Akā ʻaʻole kūpono ka honua. No laila,ʻehā mau koho nui no ka waiwai i ka wā o ka kaʻawale a hemo paha.
Pehea e kūʻai aku ai i hale inā hōʻole kekahi o nā hoa pili iā Australia
ʻO ka noʻonoʻo ʻana pehea e puʻunaue ai i ke kālā a me nā waiwai ma hope o ka haʻalele ʻana o ka pilina hiki ke pilikia. He kūpono ke kaʻana like ʻana i nā waiwai ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, akā naʻe, ʻo ke ʻano o ke kaʻana like ʻana e hilinaʻi ʻia i kou kūlana. He mea ʻole paha inā aia ka waiwai ma ka inoa o hoʻokahi kanaka, a inā ʻoe e loaʻa kālā liʻiliʻi a ʻaʻohe kālā paha, hiki iā ʻoe ke kuleana i ka waiwai.
ʻAʻole pono ʻoe e kali no ka hemo ʻana. Inā hemo ʻoe a ʻaʻole ʻoe i hoʻoholo i kāu waiwai, pono ʻoe e noi i ka ʻaha no nā kauoha waiwai i loko o 12 mau mahina mai ka lilo ʻana o ka male male.
Pono nā ʻaha kānāwai ʻohana e hoʻāʻo maoli ka poʻe e noi ana i ka hoʻoholo ʻāina e hoʻoholo i kā lākou hihia ma mua o ka waiho ʻana i kā lākou noi. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hele i ka Family Dispute Resolution, kekahi lawelawe uwao, a i ʻole e hoʻāʻo e hoʻoponopono i kāu hihia me ke kōkua o kahi loio.
Hiki ke hana ʻia nā ʻaelike pili ʻole me ke kōkua ʻole o ka loio. Akā na'e, 'a'ole hiki ke ho'okō 'ia i ka 'aha ho'okolokolo, 'o ia ho'i, e hele 'oe i ka 'aha i ka wā e hiki mai ana inā makemake 'oe a i 'ole kou hoa mua e noi i ho'oholo waiwai. He mea maʻalahi paha ka hoʻoponopono kālā a i ʻole ke kau ʻana i nā kauoha ʻae.
Uku moraki mahope o ka hookaawale ana
He poʻe akamai kā mākou mau moraki i nā kulekele o nā mea hāʻawi kālā ʻoi aku ma mua o 40, me nā panakō a me nā hui kālā kūikawā. ʻIke mākou i nā mea hāʻawi kālā e ʻae i kāu moraki, inā paha e uku no ka hemo ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻoholo ʻāina.
ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke "lawe" a haʻalele paha i ka moraki. ʻOiai ma nā ʻāina ʻē aʻe hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i ka moraki a haʻi a ʻoki paha i kekahi mai kahi ʻaelike moraki, ma Australia ʻaʻole ʻae ʻia kēia.
Loaʻa iā mākou ke komo i nā mea hāʻawi kālā kūikawā e hiki ke noʻonoʻo i kou kūlana, ʻaʻole pili i ka nui o nā uku i hala! Eia naʻe, pono ʻoe e hōʻike ua hiki iā ʻoe ke uku i kēlā mau hoʻihoʻi inā ʻaʻole ʻoe i hana.
“… Ua hiki iā ia ke loaʻa koke iā mākou a me ka haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa loa i kahi hōʻaiʻē ma ka uku ukupanee maikaʻi ke haʻi mai kekahi iā mākou he paʻakikī loa ia. Pīhoihoi loa i kā lākou lawelawe a makemake nui i nā loea mortgage i ka wā e hiki mai ana "
“… ua maʻalahi lākou i ke kaʻina noi a me ka hoʻoponopono ʻana a me ke kaumaha ʻole. Hāʻawi lākou i ka ʻike maopopo loa a pane koke lākou i nā nīnau. Ua maopopo loa lākou ma nā ʻano āpau o ke kaʻina hana. "
