Kuparadzanisa kunyora
Mukufamba kwenhaurirano idzi, ndinogara ndichishamiswa, chekutanga, kusaziva kuzivikanwka kuri kuitwa veruzhinji nezvenyaya idzi, uye chechipiri, kuti vangani ngano nenhema dziripo. Kazhinji kazhinji ndakanzwa zvichinzi: "Mushure memwedzi mitanhatu yekugara pamwe chete muhukama hwehukama, vane kodzero yehafu yeimba!".
Aiwa, chero bedzi paine vanhu vaviri vanogara muhukama hwakafanana nemuchato kweanenge makore maviri mudunhu kana imwe yemamwe maitiro evana muhukama kana mipiro yakakura yasangana, hapana mutsauko.
Ko nhengo yevaviri ava ingave nekodzero yehafu yemba mushure mekuchengetedza hukama hwe de facto kwemwedzi mitanhatu? Kazhinji, hazvibviri zvakanyanya. Saka ndepapi mutezo mumwe wevaroorani ungave nekodzero yehafu? Ongororo yakadzama yemutemo wakakodzera inoburitsa pachena kuti hukama hwechokwadi hunofanira kunge hwavepo kwemakore maviri kana kusaruramisira kwakakomba kwaizoitwa kune vakaroorana vanochengeta mwana kubva muukama hwevakaroorana vaizotambura kusaruramisira kwakakomba nekusaziva mipiro yavo yakakura. .
Zano remutemo remahara
Vaviri vasina kuroorana vanogara pamwe chete (cohabitation) vane kodzero dzakasiyana pane vakaroorana kana vakaroorana. Kana muchato ukapera nokurambana, dare rinonyanya kufunga nezvezvinodiwa nomumwe nomumwe, panzvimbo pokuti ndiani muridzi wechikamu chipi chemba. Somuenzaniso, kunowanzova kwakadaro kuti mudzimai anotarisira vana anopiwa musha wemhuri, sezvo zvinodikanwa zvake zvicharangarirwa zvikuru.
Zvisinei, mutemo uyu haushandi kune vakaroorana vasina kuroorana. Iko hakuna "de facto union". Kunze kwekunge paine chibvumirano chekugarisana kana chibvumirano chekuvimbana, vaviri vasina kuroora kana kuroorwa vane kodzero shoma dzakanangana nemamiriro avo. Nokudaro, kana mumwe munhu akatamisa mumwe wake mumba mavo vobva vaparadzana, vaviri ivavo vangave vasina kodzero yeimba yacho, kunyange zvazvo zvingaita kuti vaviri vacho vapikisane kuti vakapa mari yeimba yacho, uye naizvozvo zvinofanira. iva nechikamu.
Imba yacho yaiva ye50:50 nezviito apo VaKernott vakatama muna 1993, vachisiya Mai Jones kuti vabhadhare chikwereti cheimba. Sezvo vasina kuzogovana mari yemidziyo iyi, dare rakati izvi zvaireva kuti “chaisava chinangwa chevemapato kuti vatore midziyo pamwe chete”. Muchidimbu, VaKernott vakanga vaita mupiro muduku, panzvimbo pokunangidzira mari yavo kumusha wavo mutsva. Naizvozvo, Dare Repamusorosoro rakapa mutongo wekuti chinangwa chake chekuva mwene weimba yake pamwe chete chachinja, zvichireva kuti aive nehanya shoma pane pfuma pane 50% yaive yakanyorwa pagwaro. Mai Jones vakawana 90% varidzi, zvichisiya VaKernott vaine 10% chete.
de facto couple
MuUK mune vakaroorana vanodarika 3,5 miriyoni vanogara vose asi vasina kuroorana. Vakaroorana vakawanda vari kuramba kuroorana vachida kugarisana. Uye zviri nyore kuona chikonzero nei: muchato ungaratidzika sechisungo chikuru, chakazara nomutoro uye dzvinyiriro.
Asi nepo kugara pamwe chete kuchipa vakaroorana rusununguko uye kusanduka, hakuvapi mwero wakafanana wedziviriro sewanano. Kana chakaipisisa chikasvika pakuipa uye iwe nemumwe wako mukaparadzana, mutemo wewanano unoreva kuti midziyo, senge imba yemhuri, mari, uye zvinhu, zvinopatsanurwa pakati penyu muri vaviri, zvakaringana sezvinobvira.
59%* yevasina kuroora kana kuroorwa vanotenda kuti kune mitemo inotsigira de facto mibatanidzwa. Asi zvisinei nekuti wakagara kwenguva yakareba sei nemumwe wako, ingave masvondo maviri kana makore makumi maviri nemaviri, hapana wanano yemutemo muUK neWales.
Zvikamu zvinotevera zvinobata nekodzero dzauinadzo kumidziyo mikuru yaungangogovana semurume nemukadzi, pamwe nezvinhu zvaunogona kuita kuti uzvidzivirire zvakanyanya sezvinobvira mumamiriro ezvinhu akaipisisa.
mutemo wekugarisana
Kana uchigara nemudiwa wako unotozofunga zvekuita nemba yako kana maparadzana. Sarudzo dzauinadzo dzinoenderana nekuti hauna kuroora here, wakaroora kana kuroorwa, kana kuti uri mudzimba, uye kuti unoroja here kana kuti muridzi wemba yako.
Kana wakamboedza kugadzirisa zvinhu naex wako uye zvakakuomera, unogona kukumbira rubatsiro kuti muwirirane. Nyanzvi inonzi "murevereri" inogona kukubatsira iwe newawakambofambidzana naye kuwana mhinduro pasina kuenda kumatare.
Kazhinji, kana ukabva pamba pako, kanzuru haikupe rubatsiro rwedzimba nekuti 'unenge usina pekugara'. Izvi hazvishande kana waifanira kubva pamba pako nekuda kwekushungurudzwa mudzimba.
Kana ukafunga kumisa imba yako yekuroja kana kutamisa imba, kanzuru inogona kufunga kuti imhosva yako kuti hauna pekugara. Izvi zvinonzi "maune kushaya pekugara." Kana kanzuru ichifunga kuti hauna pekugara nemaune, vangasakwanisa kukuwana imba yenguva refu.
Kana makaroora kana kuti muri vaviri, mese mune "kodzero yekugara". Izvi zvinoreva kuti iwe unogona kugara mumba mako, kunyangwe iwe usiri wako kana usina kunyorwa pachirongwa chekurenda. Muchatofanira kutama zvachose kana muchato wenyu kana hukama hwenyu hwepamba hukapera, kana kuti kana dare rikarayira, semuenzaniso, sechikamu chekurambana kwenyu.
