Chofunikira kwambiri choyamba ndikubzala momwe ubale wabwinobwino ulili chifukwa m'mabanja ambiri simudziwa bwino. Chabwino, kukayikira kumabwera muzochitika zambiri za moyo, zomwe ziri zachilendo "Kodi ndikupita patali kwambiri? Kodi ndikuchita bwino? Ndi zomwe ndikuganiza, zomwe ndimafuna ...?" Zokayikitsa ndi zolakwa za khalidwe zimachitika osati mu chiyanjano ndi kukhalira limodzi, komanso pa munthu payekha pa moyo wathu wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Musandiwuze kuti nthawi zambiri m'moyo wanu, makamaka ngati muli ndi chidwi (ozizira kanthu, nkhawa zero), simunakayikire mkati mwa chisankho, malingaliro ... ena angachite m'moyo wanu.
Koma mwa okwatirana, osadziwa bwino zomwe zili zachilendo, zoyenera, zochepa, zingatipangitse ife kudutsa malire a khalidwe ndi / kapena kuvomereza kuti iwo adutsa nawo ife, kuwagwirizanitsa iwo, ndipo kugwirizanitsa uku kudzachitika kuposa zonse, chifukwa zifukwa ziwiri, kapena chifukwa cha zomwe ndikunena, zosadziwa malire a chikhalidwe chabwino (“Sindikudziwa bwino ngati zomwe zimandichitira ndizabwinobwino kapena ndikuziwona mokokomeza”) ndi zina chifukwa cha relativize ndikumizidwa ndi kuperekedwa ndi kudalira kwamalingaliro komwe zonse zomwe mukuganiza kuti "zidzasintha, ndizosakhalitsa, chifukwa cha kutopa kwawo, ndikuti ali ndi makhalidwe ambiri, amandiuza chifukwa amasamala ..."
Ine, yemwe ndimalankhula zambiri za chidziwitso chodabwitsa, izi zimakhalapo nthawi zonse ngati zomwe zikuchitika panthawiyi, njira yofikira wina kwa ife, khalidwe la winayo kwa ife, ngati chirichonse chikuchitika mkati chimayambitsa kusasangalala ndipo chimabwera. ife ndi kusapeza, pali mwachidziwitso kuntchito, zomwe zimatiyika ife mu zenizeni kuti zomwe zikuchitika siziyenera kukhala choncho. "Thupi limalankhula, mwamwayi, lokha, popanda kuganiza kwanu", ndipo ndilo lingaliro, "amene amakuganizirani kapena kukumverani popanda kulingalira kwanu"
“Ndipo nchiyani chimene chiri chachibadwa mwa okwatirana?” Ambiri angafunse. Mutha kukangana, kukhala ndi mavuto, osalankhulana wina ndi mzake, kukwiya ndipo kuchokera pamenepo, chimachokera chiyani? ....Chabwino, inde ndi ayi, ndipo ngati pali kusiyana, chinthu chodziwika bwino ndi momwe kusiyana ndi mavutowa amakulira, malingaliro aulemu polankhula za mutuwo, kamvekedwe ka mawu, kumvetsera ndi cholinga chothetsa ndi. osamvetsera ndi cholinga choteteza, lemekezani maganizo a wina popanda kuweruza, ndipo, ndithudi, musamasewere mongopeka: ndithudi iye amawachitira oterowo, ndithudi amawanenera kuti, "ngati" ... Ndipo kotero izo zimakhudzidwa kwambiri, aa! ndipo ndithudi osachotsa zoyipa zakale.
Mphindi iliyonse yamavuto, yomwe iyenera kukhala yochepa ngati ili ubale wokhwima ndi wokhazikika, uyenera kukambidwa nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse, osazindikira, kutembenuka ndikuchoka, kukupangitsa iwe kukhala wolakwa ndikusiya kulankhula kwa sabata? osati obiriwira mpaka ... kugulitsa !!!! Kuchotsedwa kwa mawu ndi kukhalapo kwake ndi chimodzi mwa zilango zoipitsitsa ndi kuzunzidwa m'maganizo, monga momwe zimamvekera. "Ndimakunyalanyazani ndikukulepheretsani mwayi uliwonse woti ndithetse, kuwonjezera pa "Sindikukukondani", "Sindikufuna chilichonse chomwe mungandiuze."
Uwu ndi ubale wapoizoni. Kukangana kotereku sikozolowereka (kukambirana kusakhale kwabwinobwino, kukhale maganizo). Mabanja ambiri anazolowera kuwona m’nyumba mwawo njira zimenezi zochitira zinthu pakati pa makolo awo ndi njira zimenezi zolankhulirana wina ndi mnzake ndi kuchitira ana awo, ndipo n’zachidziŵikire kuti makhalidwe amenewa anaphunziridwa, kusinthidwa, ndipo anayamba ndi banja loyamba limene anali nalo. . Ndipo ndi zotsatirazi. Kuphatikiza pa kutenga izi zomwe tinaphunzira kuyambira ubwana kupita kwa banjali, kale mkati mwa banjali takhala tikusintha, kuyenga ndi kugwirizanitsa makhalidwe awa ogonjetsera ena ndi kusowa ulemu ndi kumene chikondi. China chake chokhumudwitsa ndikukulira m'banja losweka ndikuzunzidwa, kuzunzidwa kapena kuwonedwa ndi mmodzi wa makolo. Ndipo mofanana ndi kukhala ndi mnzako amene anakuchitirani nkhanza. Ndipo ndikuti pali zidziwitso zambiri mu izi… .. kuti m'modzi mwa mamembalawo ali ndi psychopathology ndipo winayo sadziwa momwe angachitire ngati zachilendo komanso zosefukira, kapena kuti munthu amene akuzunzidwa nawonso amachitiranso nkhanza. bwenzi latsopano kwa winayo, popanda kukhala yemweyo, ndithudi, pokhapokha ngati izi "zikufuna kupewedwa" mwa kugwirizanitsa, kulekerera, kulungamitsa ... kwa iye amene akuvutika ndi amene, ndithudi, samamvetsa. makhalidwe awa ndi kupirira.
Ndife opangira zokumana nazo zabwino ndi zoyipa. Choipa kwambiri si kuphunzira, nokha, kusintha khalidwe lanu mu ubale wabwinobwino, kumene chimene chiyenera kukhala osachepera ndi chachikulu ndi chikondi, ulemu ndi kusilira.
Ndizosangalatsa kukumbatira popanda chifukwa, kupsompsona popanda chifukwa, kupsompsona, kutsina pang'ono pa bulu mumsewu, kuyang'ana ndi tsinzino, nthabwala, "wokongola" modzidzimutsa, kugwirana manja, kufika kunyumba. ndi kufuna kumuwona,, lemberani mameseji chinthu chopusa masana, munyengererani osayembekezera, lankhulani za inu, kambiranani zamavuto ogwirizana komanso osanyozeka, gawanani mphindi popanda kuzifufuza, zilengeni kuti mukhale limodzi, mukufuna kukhala limodzi. , kumva kukoma kwambiri mukakhala naye Ooh!!!!!!! Ndipo kupita ku kugonana ... ..chinthu chokongola kwambiri, kugonana ndi chikondi, mwaulemu komanso kuseka. Kugonana sikuyenera kutumikira, komanso sikuthandiza kuthetsa vuto lililonse. Palibe chomwe chimathetsedwa pabedi, chimangopangidwa, kubisala, kuyimitsidwa ndipo mpaka nthawi ina tidzakhala ndi china chonga ichi komanso tiyeni titulutse vuto lomwe tangolibwezera m'chikwama cha omwe adawunjika m'mbuyomu komanso omwe sanathe. Chabwino, timangoponyera ma kiki ndikuwona zomwe zimachitika…..(fatal).
Kodi ndili paubwenzi wapoizoni? Chabwino, molingana ndi zomwe mwakhala mukuwerengazo, mumadziona bwanji? Kumbali imodzi, kodi muli paubwenzi wabwinobwino? (Ndili ndi ntchito yatsopano komanso nyumba, yosangalatsa bwanji! Kodi muli pachibwenzi chifukwa cha chidwi? Kodi mumamuchitira bwanji mnzanuyo? Kodi mumawafuna bwanji ndipo mumawasowa? Mukufuna zochuluka bwanji? kukhala ndi munthu ameneyo?Kodi mumagawana naye chiyani, nthawi zomwe akuganiza kuti zatsala kwa inu?
Nthawi zina pamakhala mantha ambiri povomereza kuti uyu si munthu m'moyo wanga chifukwa zikuwonekeratu kuti sizomwe ndikufuna ndipo ndikumva chisoni, koma nthawi zina timaumirira kuti inde, iyi ndi njira yoyipa. ndipo Sizingatheke kuti izi sizingasinthe, ndipo timaumitsa ndi kuvutika ndipo palibe chomwe chimasintha, ndipo kuwonjezera apo, tikupanga makhalidwe ogonjera komanso okhwima kwambiri ndi zizindikiro kwa winayo, kuti tikwaniritse cholinga chathu: kuti tikhale banja losangalala, ndi palibe chowonjezera pamene nthawi zambiri simukhala osangalala komanso mulibe makhalidwe omwe amatsogolera ku izo. Nthawi zina simusintha ngakhale mutapanikizika, ndipo mukasintha "mantha otaya kanthu", zomwe zimangotenga miyezi ingapo kwambiri, chifukwa njira yokhala ndi kusowa sizisintha ... Pang'ono ndi pang'ono zimawonekera momwe akubwerera ku njira zake zakale ndipo kachiwiri timayamba kugwirizana….uuff.
Mu banja lapoizoni, wina amapita kwathunthu ku mpira wake, ndikuwonetsa pamene akufuna chinachake kapena pamene alibe njira yabwinoko, amachita zomwe akufuna popanda kusamala zomwe wina angaganize kapena kusowa ... chifukwa, chowiringula chochoka nacho kapena kukuponyerani zinyalala popanda nthawi zina kukhala nacho chochita nacho, momwe mumakwiyira…. Mkwiyo wake ndi kupsa mtima kwake nthawi zina zimakuwopsezani ndipo nthawi zina zimakupangitsani kuti muyang'ane wina ndi mnzake ndipo ndipamene munthu wapoizoniyo ali ndi mwayi "wodziyika m'malo mwako ndi china chake chomwe chimakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa ...." Ulibe njira yotulukira, ndipo umakhala pamenepo chifukwa ndiye mwini wako ndipo umamveketsa bwino, kupeŵa.
Pali njira zambiri zokhala poizoni, nthawi zina zoyera ndi zina zobisika, kutengera luntha lanu ndi zomwe mwaphunzira kuchokera ku cholengedwa choyipa ichi chomwe chimayamwa malingaliro anu ndikusankha okoma mtima, osakhalitsa, chifukwa cha "chinachake", ndikupitilizabe kusokoneza. inu ngakhale mukumva ngati mfumu ya mfumu pamene, inde, sichoncho?
Ndizovuta kuwona izi, kuwerenga izi, kukuzindikirani mu izi, koma kuti ndikulemba komanso kuti mwakumana nazo sizipangitsa kuti zikhale zenizeni, chifukwa mukudziwa kuti sizisintha. . Inde, mumasangalala pamene "mumakhulupirira" kuti tsopano inde, kuti tsopano Mulungu amakupangitsani kumva, amakukwezani ku chisangalalo chachikulu, mwinamwake, .... Kapena kodi kusakhulupirira kumazunzabe, ndi chifukwa?
Monga momwe moyo wathu umakhalira, womwe umakhala kamodzi kokha ndipo nthawi zina wovuta.
Paubwenzi wapoizoni izi, mwa kusankha kusunga nthawi zabwino muzolemba zonse, kunyoza kapena kuchepetsa zoipa, zomwe zilipo ndipo ndizochuluka. Ubongo wa mdani wathu nthawi zina timakhala nawo! Koma iye si wopusa ndipo nthawi zina amatimenya pa dzanja ndi mwachidziwitso komanso kusapeza bwino, ndi zoonekeratu ... khalani ndi ubale (ngakhale zitakhala zonyansa), ndizovuta koma, "ndizozizira", makamaka pamene mukumva kuthandizidwa ndipo mwinamwake mwapeza "maiko ena" kumene zomwe mukufuna zikhoza kuchitika komanso kuchulukitsa ndi 1000. kupeza munthu wina yemwe amakusangalatsani, kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuwona komwe muli ndikutulukamo.
Kubwereranso kwa bwenzi lanu lapoizoni, kodi mumamukhulupirira mochuluka bwanji ndi iye? kukhulupirika kwanu sikutanthauza kuti ali nako, kwenikweni kupanda ulemu kumachuluka, ndipo osati nthawi zonse pamaso panu, akamalankhula za inu kwa ena (kumbuyo kwanu) akusewera wozunzidwayo chifukwa chakupirirani kapena kukunyozani. , kudzilungamitsa kusakhalapo kapena kusatuluka nanu chifukwa ndinu otere ... ndipo bwino, amayang'ana mapulani ake ena omwe simuli patsogolo panu, chifukwa sasamala za inu, kapena ndi mapulani ofunikira komanso momwe simungakhalemo? .
Pamene munthu amadziona kuti ndi wotsika, popeza ndi munthu wapoizoni, amayesa kudzitsimikizira yekha koma ndi aliyense ... Amakulamulirani, amachita nsanje, amakufunirani makhalidwe ngakhale ake atakhala osiyana ndi omwe amakufunirani. Savomereza kulakwa kwake, amangoyendayenda momwe angathere kuzinthu zomwe zili kunja kwake komanso kwa inu. Choyamba ndi zomwe amaika patsogolo kapena zomwe amaziika patsogolo, podziwa kuti mudzavomera komanso kusangalala…. ndipo ndikadapitilizabe ndi machitidwe ena ambiri ...
Ndi kupanda chilungamo chotani nanga kusakanizikana kumeneku kwa anthu abwino ndi odzikonda. Chilichonse kwa iwo, kuchokera kwa iwo ndi kuchokera kunja komanso kwa iwo ... ndipo mulipo tsiku lililonse kuti mulimbikitse ndi kukondweretsa mtima wawo ... anthu kuphatikiza izo. Anthu achifundo ndi abwino okha ndi omwe amatha kupirira kukhala paubwenzi wapoizoni wa kusokoneza kosalekeza, akudziwa kale. Lamulo, Baibulo ndi lakuti: palibe kukhudzana kapena mdierekezi ayamba kukugwirani mukangomupatsa mphamvu.
Ndili ndi nkhope zambiri ndi zokambirana m'mutu mwanga pakali pano pamene ndikulemba, ndipo omwe amandiwerengera za omwe adakambirana nawo - vuto ndi ine, adzawoneka ndikukumbukiridwa.
Bravo kwa omwe ndikuwadziwa, ambiri, omwe adatuluka kumeneko, iwo ndi iwo…..! Ole “zokongoletsa” zanu…(mwetulirani). Moyo umenewo ndi wosavuta komanso wopindulitsa kwambiri kunja uko, sichoncho? Ndipo ngati mutapeza spark, sindikuuzani…..!!!!!!!
ZA WOLEMBA
Ana M. Angel Esteban
