Kulekana kulemba
Mkati mwa zokambiranazi, ndimadabwa mosalekeza, poyamba, momwe anthu ambiri alibe chidziwitso pankhaniyi, ndipo chachiwiri, ndi nthano ndi malingaliro olakwika angati omwe alipo. Nthawi zambiri ndamva kuti: "Pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yakukhala pamodzi muubwenzi wamba, ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi theka la nyumba!".
Ayi, bola ngati pali anthu awiri okhala muubwenzi wonga waukwati kwa zaka zosachepera ziwiri m'boma kapena chimodzi mwazofunikira za ana muubwenzi kapena zopereka zokulirapo zakwaniritsidwa, sizipanga kusiyana.
Kodi membala wa banjali atha kukhala ndi theka la nyumbayo atakhala pachibwenzi kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi? Nthawi zambiri, ndizokayikitsa kwambiri. Ndiye ndi liti pamene membala mmodzi wa banjali angakhale ndi ufulu wa theka? Kuyang'ana pang'onopang'ono kwa malamulo oyenerera kumawonetsa kuti ubale womwe uyenera kukhala udakhalapo kwa zaka ziwiri kapena chisalungamo chachikulu chitha kuchitidwa kwa banja lomwe likusamalira mwana kuchokera paubwenzi womwe okwatiranawo angakumane ndi chisalungamo chachikulu posazindikira zomwe amathandizira. .
Malangizo azamalamulo aulere
Maanja omwe akukhala limodzi (kukhalira limodzi) ali ndi ufulu wosiyana ndi wokwatirana kapena wamba. Ngati banja litha m’chisudzulo, khoti liyenera kuganizira zofuna za wina ndi mnzake, m’malo moganizira kuti mbali ya nyumbayo ndi eni ake. Mwachitsanzo, kaŵirikaŵiri zimakhala choncho kuti mkazi amene amasamalira ana amapatsidwa nyumba ya banja, popeza kuti zosoŵa zake zidzalingaliridwa kukhala zazikulu.
Komabe mfundo imeneyi sigwira ntchito kwa anthu amene sali pabanja. Palibe "de facto union". Pokhapokha ngati pali mgwirizano wokhalira limodzi kapena mgwirizano wokhulupirirana, anthu osakwatirana ali ndi ufulu wochepa wogwirizana ndi momwe alili. Choncho, ngati wina atasamutsa mnzawo m’nyumba mwawo kenako n’kusiyana, mwamuna ndi mkaziyo sangakhale ndi ufulu wokhala ndi malowo, ngakhale kuti n’zotheka kuti okwatiranawo angatsutse kuti apereka ndalama zogulira malowo, choncho ziyenera kutero. kukhala ndi gawo.
Nyumbayo inali ya 50:50 mwa ntchito pamene Bambo Kernott anasamuka mu 1993, akusiya Mayi Jones kuti alipire ngongole yanyumba. Popeza sanagawane ndalama za katunduyo, khotilo lidati izi zikutanthauza kuti sichinali "cholinga chodziwika kuti maphwando azikhala ndi katunduyo limodzi". Mwachidule, a Kernott anali ataperekako ndalama zochepa, m’malo mwake ankalozera chuma chawo ku nyumba yawo yatsopano. Choncho, Khoti Lalikulu Kwambiri linagamula kuti cholinga chake chokhala ndi nyumba yake pamodzi chasintha, kutanthauza kuti alibe chidwi ndi katunduyo kusiyana ndi 50% yomwe inalembedwa pa chikalatacho. Mayi Jones adalandira 90% umwini, kusiya Bambo Kernott ndi 10% yokha.
de facto couple
Ku UK kuli mabanja opitilira 3,5 miliyoni omwe amakhala limodzi koma osakwatirana. Mabanja ochulukirachulukira akukana ukwati chifukwa chokhalira limodzi. Ndipo n’zosavuta kuona chifukwa chake: ukwati ukhoza kuwoneka ngati kudzipereka kwakukulu, kodzala ndi udindo ndi chitsenderezo.
Koma ngakhale kuti kukhalira limodzi kumapatsa okwatirana ufulu ndi kusinthasintha, sikumawapatsa chitetezo chofanana ndi cha ukwati. Ngati vuto lifika poipa kwambiri ndipo inu ndi mnzanuyo mutapatukana, lamulo laukwati limatanthauza kuti katundu, monga banja, ndalama, ndi katundu, zimagawidwa pakati pa awiri a inu, monga momwe mungathere.
59%* ya maanja omwe sali pabanja amakhulupirira kuti pali malamulo omwe amachirikiza maunyolo a de facto. Koma mosasamala kanthu kuti mwakhala nthawi yayitali bwanji ndi bwenzi lanu, kaya ndi masabata a 2 kapena zaka 22, ku UK ndi Wales kulibe ukwati wamba.
Magawo otsatirawa akufotokoza za ufulu womwe muli nawo pazinthu zazikulu zomwe mungathe kugawana ngati banja, komanso zomwe mungachite kuti mudziteteze momwe mungathere pazovuta kwambiri.
lamulo la cohabitation
Ngati mukukhala ndi bwenzi lanu, muyenera kusankha chochita ndi nyumba yanu pamene mupatukana. Zosankha zomwe muli nazo zimadalira ngati simuli mbeta, ndinu okwatira, kapena ndinu okwatirana, komanso ngati muli ndi nyumba yobwereka.
Ngati munayesapo kale kukonza zinthu ndi wakale wanu ndipo zikukuvutani, mutha kupempha thandizo kuti mugwirizane. Katswiri wotchedwa "mkhalapakati" angakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanu wakale kupeza yankho popanda kupita kukhoti.
Nthawi zambiri, mukachoka panyumba panu, khonsolo sidzakupatsani chithandizo chanyumba chifukwa 'mwakhala mulibe nyumba dala'. Izi sizikugwira ntchito ngati mutachoka pakhomo panu chifukwa cha nkhanza zapakhomo.
Ngati mwaganiza zothetsa lendi kapena kusamutsa nyumba, khonsolo ingaganize kuti ndi vuto lanu kuti mulibe malo okhala. Izi zimatchedwa "mwadala kusowa pokhala." Ngati khonsolo ikuganiza kuti mulibe nyumba mwadala, sangakupezeni nyumba zanthawi yayitali.
Ngati ndinu okwatirana kapena okwatirana, nonse muli ndi "ufulu wokhala ndi nyumba". Izi zikutanthauza kuti mutha kukhala m'nyumba mwanu, ngakhale mutakhala kuti mulibe kapena simunalembedwe pa lendi. Mudzasamuka kwamuyaya ngati banja lanu kapena chibwenzi chanu chatha, kapena ngati khoti lalamula, mwachitsanzo, ngati gawo la chisudzulo chanu.
