Kākau hoʻokaʻawale
I ka wā o kēia mau kamaʻilio ʻana, kahaha mau wau i ka ʻike ʻole o ka lehulehu e pili ana i kēia mau pilikia, ʻo ka mua, a me ka nui o nā moʻolelo a me nā kuhi hewa, ʻo ka lua. Ua lohe pinepine au i ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Ma hope o ʻeono mahina o ka noho pū ʻana ma kahi pilina pili kānāwai, ua kuleana lākou i ka hapalua o ka hale!"
ʻAʻole, ʻoiai ʻelua mau kānaka e noho ana i kahi pilina like me ka male no ka liʻiliʻi o ʻelua makahiki ma ka mokuʻāina a i ʻole kekahi o nā kumu ʻē aʻe no nā keiki i ka pilina a i ʻole nā haʻawina nui i hoʻokō ʻia, ʻaʻohe mea ʻokoʻa.
Hiki i kekahi lālā o ka male ke kuleana i ka hapalua o ka hale ma hope o ka mālama ʻana i kahi pilina de facto no ʻeono mahina? Ma keʻano laulā, he mea hikiʻole. No laila, i ka manawa hea e hiki ai i kekahi lālā o ka male ke kuleana i ka hapalua? ʻO ka loiloi kumu o ke kānāwai kūpono e hōʻike ana i ka noho ʻana o ka pilina de facto no ʻelua makahiki a i ʻole e hana ʻia kahi hewa koʻikoʻi i ka male e mālama ana i kahi keiki mai ka pilina e loaʻa i kahi kāne i ka hewa koʻikoʻi ma ka ʻike ʻole ʻana i kā lākou mau haʻawina nui. .
Kūʻokoʻa nā ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo kānāwai
He ʻokoʻa nā kuleana o nā kāne male ʻole e noho pū ana ma mua o nā kāne male a i ʻole nā kāne maʻamau. Inā pau ka male male ʻana, e noʻonoʻo mua ka ʻaha i nā pono o kēlā me kēia, ma mua o ka mea nona ka ʻāpana o ka hale. No ka laʻana, ʻo ka wahine nāna e mālama i nā keiki ke hāʻawi ʻia i ka home ʻohana, no ka mea, e manaʻo ʻia ʻo ia ka mea nui.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole pili kēia kumumanaʻo i nā kāne male ʻole. ʻAʻohe "union de facto". Inā ʻaʻole he ʻaelike hoʻopaʻa noho a i ʻole he palapala hilinaʻi, he kakaikahi nā kuleana o nā kāne male ʻole i kūpono i ko lākou kūlana. No laila, inā e hoʻoneʻe kekahi i kā lāua hoa i loko o ko lāua home a kaʻawale lāua ma hope, ʻaʻohe kuleana o kēlā kāne i ka waiwai, ʻoiai hiki paha i nā kāne ke hoʻopaʻapaʻa ua hāʻawi lākou i ke kālā o ka waiwai, a no laila pono ia. he hapa.
Ua lilo ka hale i ka 50:50 ma ka palapala i ka wā i neʻe aku ai ʻo Mr. Kernott i ka makahiki 1993, a waiho iā Mrs. Jones e uku i ka moraki. No ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i kaʻana like i nā lilo o ka waiwai, ua ʻōlelo ka ʻaha ʻo ia ka mea ʻaʻole "ka manaʻo maʻamau o nā ʻaoʻao e lilo i ka waiwai i hui pū ʻia". I ka pōkole, ua hāʻawi ʻo Mr. Kernott i kahi haʻawina liʻiliʻi, ma kahi o ke kuhikuhi ʻana i kāna kālā i kona home hou. No laila, ua hoʻoholo ka ʻAha Kiʻekiʻe ua hoʻololi ʻia kona manaʻo e hoʻopaʻa pū i kona hale, ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka liʻiliʻi o kona hoihoi i ka waiwai ma mua o ka 50% i helu ʻia ma ka palapala. Ua loaʻa iā Mrs. Jones he 90% kuleana, a waiho iā Mr. Kernott me 10% wale nō.
de facto couple
Ma UK aia ma mua o 3,5 miliona mau kāne e noho pū ana akā ʻaʻole i male. ʻOi aku ka nui o nā kāne e hōʻole nei i ka male no ka noho ʻana. A he mea maʻalahi ke ʻike i ke kumu: hiki ke ʻike ʻia ka male ʻana me he kūpaʻa nui, piha i ke kuleana a me ke koʻikoʻi.
Akā ʻoiai ʻo ka noho pū ʻana e hāʻawi i nā kāne i ke kūʻokoʻa a me ka maʻalahi, ʻaʻole ia e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka pae like o ka palekana e like me ka male. Inā hiki mai ka mea ʻino loa a kaʻawale ʻoe a me kāu hoa, ʻo ke kānāwai o ka male ʻana, ʻo ia ka waiwai, e like me ka home ʻohana, kālā, a me nā waiwai, e māhele ʻia ma waena o ʻolua, e like me ka hiki.
Manaʻo ka 59%* o nā kāne male ʻole aia nā kānāwai e kākoʻo ana i nā uniona de facto. Akā ʻoiai ʻo ka lōʻihi o kou noho ʻana me kāu hoa pili, inā he 2 pule a i ʻole 22 mau makahiki, ʻaʻohe male male ma UK a me Wales.
ʻO nā ʻāpana ma lalo nei e pili ana i nā kuleana i loaʻa iā ʻoe i nā waiwai nui āu e kaʻana like ai ma ke ʻano he kāne, a me nā mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana e pale aku iā ʻoe iho e like me ka hiki i ke kūlana ʻino loa.
kānāwai noho pū
Inā noho ʻoe me kāu hoa, pono ʻoe e hoʻoholo i ka mea e hana ai me kou home ke kaʻawale ʻoe. ʻO nā koho i loaʻa iā ʻoe ma muli o ka male kāne ʻoe, male, a i ʻole ma kahi hui kūloko, a inā ʻoe e hoʻolimalima a nona paha kou home.
Inā ua ho'āʻo mua ʻoe e hana i nā mea me kāu ex a paʻakikī iā ʻoe, hiki iā ʻoe ke noi i ke kōkua e hiki ai i kahi ʻaelike. Hiki i kekahi loea i kapa ʻia ʻo "mediator" ke kōkua iā ʻoe a me kāu hoa o mua e ʻimi i kahi hopena me ka hele ʻole i ka ʻaha hoʻokolokolo.
ʻO ka mea maʻamau, inā haʻalele ʻoe i kou home, ʻaʻole e hāʻawi ka ʻaha kūkā iā ʻoe i ke kōkua hale no ka mea ua 'manaʻo ʻole ʻoe. ʻAʻole pili kēia inā ua haʻalele ʻoe i kou home no ka hoʻomāinoino ʻana i ka home.
Inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hoʻopau i kāu hoʻolimalima a hoʻoneʻe paha i kou hale, manaʻo paha ka ʻaha kūkā nau ka hewa ʻaʻohe ou wahi e noho ai. Kapa ʻia kēia ʻo "intentional homeless." Inā manaʻo ka ʻaha kūkā he home ʻole ʻoe, ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke loaʻa iā ʻoe kahi hale lōʻihi.
Inā male ʻoe a he kāne de facto paha, aia iā ʻolua ke "kuleana i ka hale". ʻO ia ke ʻano hiki iā ʻoe ke noho i kou hale, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe iā ia a ʻaʻole i helu ʻia ma ka hoʻolimalima. Pono ʻoe e neʻe paʻa inā pau kāu male ʻana a i ʻole ka pilina pili home, a i ʻole ke kauoha ʻia e ka ʻaha, no ka laʻana, ma ke ʻano he ʻāpana o kāu hemo.
