Manaʻo ʻoe ua hoʻohui ʻoe i ka ʻenehana?
ʻAe, inā ma muli o ka addiction maopopo ʻoe i ka pono e noho me ka ʻenehana a hiki i ka hiki ʻole ke hana me ka ʻole a i ʻole, i ka hihia o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana, ʻike mākou i ka hopohopo, ka hou, ke anu, ka huhū a i ʻole ka ʻeha, a laila, hiki iā mākou. e ʻōlelo aku aia kekahi ʻano o ka addiction a i ʻole, ka hilinaʻi.
Eia nō naʻe, ʻaʻole mākou i ʻike a ʻike ʻole ʻia ma muli o ka manaʻo ʻaʻole i manaʻo ʻia he 'pōʻino' a ʻaʻole i hoʻokumu ʻia he lāʻau lapaʻau iā ia iho. Akā ua hōʻoia ka nui o nā noiʻi i ka hilinaʻi ʻana i nā ʻenehana, ʻoi aku ka nui o nā ʻoihana pūnaewele.
I kēlā me kēia lā hiki iā mākou ke ʻike iā ia ma ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻaʻole mākou e noʻonoʻo e hele i waho me ka ʻole o kā mākou kelepona paʻa, a i ʻole he pilikia ko mākou inā ʻaʻohe pūnaewele a i ʻole ka uhi.
Hōʻike ʻo Inés Valderrábano, he loea noʻonoʻo olakino ma Trauma a me EMDR ma ke Keʻena ʻo Cláritas, ʻo kēia ʻike nui ʻana i ka ʻenehana e pili pū ana i ka hoʻomohala, ka huahana a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, e hoʻomaikaʻi iā mākou i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā pilikia a me ka liʻiliʻi o nā manaʻo hou.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, hoʻokaʻawale kēia addiction iā mākou mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a paipai iā mākou e hoʻololi i ko mākou ala e pili ana (hana ia ma ka pale) a i ʻole hiki iā mākou ke hana no ka mea makemake mākou i ka papahana a me ka hoʻolālā blanket. "Inā mālama ʻole mākou, i kēlā me kēia manawa ke neʻe nei mākou i kahi mamao aʻe mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe."
JOMO vs FOMO
Hōʻike ʻia ʻo JOMO ma ke ʻano he ʻokoʻa me FOMO (makaʻu o ka nalowale ʻana, ma kāna unuhi), a pili i kahi o ka wehe ʻana, ʻaʻole pili mau i ka nānā ʻana i nā nūhou hou, nā leka, nā kiʻi a i ʻole nā moʻo hiʻohiʻona. "Hiki iā mākou ke ʻōlelo ʻo ia ka haʻalele ʻana i ka nānā ʻana i ka honua o waho, e komo i loko o ka honua," wahi a Valderrábano.
Hiki i kēia ke kōkua iā mākou e ʻike maikaʻi iā mākou iho, mālama iā mākou iho a aʻo i nā mea e pono ai mākou i nā manawa āpau. A e pili pū me nā mea ʻē aʻe i ʻae ʻole ʻia e ka manawa i hoʻolilo ʻia i nā ʻenehana, e like me nā hale moʻomeheu, nā puke, nā kiʻi a i ʻole nā hoaaloha.
Ma kēia mau laina, ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iā mākou iho mai ka ʻenehana ʻaʻole wale kā mākou mau hana e ʻoi aku ka noʻonoʻo a me ke akamai i ka wā e loaʻa ai nā hopena, akā e hoʻomaikaʻi kā mākou hana, a e loaʻa iā mākou ka manawa hou.
Pehea e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai i ka hoʻokē ʻai kikohoʻe
I ka hopena, e like me nā mea a pau i kēia ola, aia ka mea maikaʻi i ke kaulike, a ʻo ia ka mea a ka psychologist e hōʻike ai: "I mea e hoʻokō ai i kahi wikiwiki kikohoʻe, he mea nui ʻaʻole e hoʻomaka pololei me kahi helu kiʻekiʻe loa. o na hora, oia hoi, hele au mai 0 a 100. Akā, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka hoʻomaka ʻana me kahi pahuhopu liʻiliʻi, akā hiki ke hoʻokō a scalable, no ka laʻana, hoʻokahi hola i ka lā. "A pono mākou e hoʻokumu i ka manawa e hiki mai ai kēlā manawa a me kā mākou e hana ai i kēlā manawa, haʻuki, heluhelu ...?"
He mea nui e ho'ākāka i ke ʻano o nā helu: makemake anei mākou e loaʻa kahi manawa o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i kēlā me kēia lā a i ʻole he liʻiliʻi wale nō? I kekahi mau mea pā? ʻEhia ka manawa e wehe ʻia ai kēia mau hoʻokuʻu? A inā ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana, loaʻa iaʻu kekahi ʻano uku? E like me, no ka laʻana, lawe i ka wikiwiki, hoʻololi i ka lā a ʻae paha i kēia e hana i kekahi manawa.
"ʻO ka maʻalahi a me ka kikoʻī o mākou me mākou iho a me kā mākou makemake, ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o kā mākou hana. A ʻo ka mea pili loa paha, ʻo ia ka pahuhopu hope loa a hiki ke hoʻokō ʻia, he ʻoiaʻiʻo mākou a ʻaʻole e noi i nā mea hohonu i ʻike mākou ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokō, no ka mea, e pau ana ia i ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana iā mākou. hooki i ka hoʻokē ʻai, "wahi a Valderrábano.
No kēia kumu, ʻōlelo ka psychologist e hoʻokokoke liʻiliʻi i ka pahuhopu a mākou i hoʻonohonoho ai no mākou iho, e kau ana i nā kumu. "ʻAʻole mākou makemake e holo, no ka mea ʻaʻole ia e kōkua iā mākou." No laila, i ka manawa i hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻokō i kēlā pahuhopu waena e kau ana no hoʻokahi pule, hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohui i ka manawa i ka wehe ʻana. "A no laila, ma kahi o ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pono āpau o ka hoʻokē ʻai, ʻoluʻolu a haʻaheo mākou iā mākou iho no ka loaʻa ʻana."
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